Jon and Kate

Lots of folks are tweeting tonight about Jon and Kate getting a divorce. Some of the posts are saying things like, "I don't care what Jon and Kate do!" But as someone who has watched the show off and on for a few months, I have that yucky feeling in the pit of my stomach as I watch the episode where they make the announcement.

I only have two kids, not eight and every moment of my life is not taped for the nation to see, so I will never really understand that pressure. (I get that they brought much of that pressure on themselves.) But I do feel like I can relate. Today is my 7th anniversary. By no means have we made it to our golden years, but we have had our share of rough spots along that journey. And we have managed to avoid the 7 year itch. My biggest fear during the bumpy patches in the road are exactly what Jon and Kate are going through. Taking a deep breath and admitting that the marriage is not worth saving and all the logistics that go with that. Things like telling your spouse it is over, telling the kids, telling family and friends. Trying to figure out who goes where to live. Where will the kids go? Dealing with your grief and the grief of all those around you who wanted to see the marriage succeed. So many questions and none of the answers are easy.

I understand that everyday marriages end in divorce. I guess seeing a family go through it, even if it is on TV, takes me to a place I have feared before. The only way I can label it is sad.